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Have you lost a loved one

A tragic loss

As someone who has lost a loved one to suicide, you are facing a difficult time mourning this loss and trying to understand what happened. You will probably feel a wide range of emotions and have reactions that upset you. This is because people who commit suicide leave behind confusion and distress.

Our services

If you live in Montreal, we want you to know that someone from Suicide Action Montréal is available to listen to you, help you or comfort you at any time of the day or night. By dialing 1 866 APPELLE (277-3553), you can express your pain, your anger, your feeling of loss, and the guilt that is commonly felt by those left behind. What you say is entirely confidential.

After your initial call, if you need more support, you can leave your contact information for one of our support staff. The person in charge of helping those in mourning will call you shortly after to offer specific help: individual and/or family meetings, or possibly a series of adult meetings. Telephone follow-up is also available. Want more information about support groups?

If you live outside Montreal, you can get help by calling 1 866 APPELLE (277-3553) . You will be automatically redirected to a suicide prevention center in your area.

A wide range of emotions and upsetting reactions

The most common reactions from people mourning someone who has committed suicide include:

  • Believing that you will never feel good again.
  • Having physical problems, such as headaches, stomachaches and backaches.
  • Thinking that you are going crazy, because you see the same scenes in your head over and over.
  • Having muddled ideas and problems concentrating.
  • Experiencing very intense emotions.
  • Having a feeling that nothing affects you or nothing is important anymore.
  • Being haunted by questions you cannot answer.
  • Thinking of suicide; wanting to get your lost loved one back.
  • Feeling guilty when you start feeling better.

Keep in mind that these reactions are NORMAL in this situation, and that, little by little, you will get your life back.

Support Groups

The support groups are made up of six to eight adults who are mourning a person who has committed suicide. There are weekly meetings lasting two hours each for a period of eight consecutive weeks. These meetings are led by two crisis workers who have received specific training.

The purpose of support groups is:

  • To be welcomed without any judgments
  • To look for ways to face this upheaval
  • To support each other in getting through the mourning process
  • To support other people going through a similar situation

Resources available in Quebec